Do You Know What Attachment Styles Are in Relationships?

Mindset Coaching
02/17/2025|Mindset Coaching|

We are all born with a specific attachment style, shaped by how you are raised by your caregivers. Your attachment style influences your comfort and confidence in close relationships, your fear of rejection, and your need for intimacy and connection.

The Four Main Attachment Styles:

  • Secure Attachment: Individuals with a secure attachment style have healthy relationship patterns. They feel comfortable with intimacy, can express their needs, and regulate their emotions well. They maintain a sense of independence within the relationship. This usually develops from consistent and responsive caregiving during childhood.
  • Anxious Attachment: People with an anxious attachment style experience a deep fear of abandonment and often exhibit behaviours like intense neediness, constant reassurance seeking, and extreme sensitivity to rejection or emotional distance from a partner. This is often a result of inconsistent or lack of emotional connection with a caregiver, leading to feelings of unworthiness and overdependence on others for emotional validation.
  • Avoidant Attachment: Individuals with an avoidant attachment style tend to avoid emotional intimacy and closeness, prioritizing independence, and self-reliance. They often distance themselves from others to protect against vulnerability or the fear of rejection. This pattern usually arises from emotionally unavailable or inconsistent caregiving.
  • Fearful-Avoidant Attachment: Often referred to as the “fearful” attachment style, individuals with this style desire close relationships but fear intimacy and closeness at the same time. They often swing between anxious and avoidant behaviours, creating a “push and pull” dynamic in relationships. This style stems from inconsistent or neglectful caregiving, which causes distrust in others and withdrawal from relationships.

Can Your Attachment Style Change?

Yes! It is possible to change your attachment style. If you are willing to do the work, you can shift from any insecure attachment style to a secure attachment.

Book your free 15-minute consultation with me to discover your attachment style. From there, we can begin your mindset coaching journey to reprogram your mind, helping you become securely attached and build healthier, more fulfilling relationships with yourself and others.